Dear Adam of 1986,
You’re so fun, and creative, and brave. Do you know what brave means? It means you have courage. Courage is what lets you do stuff even when you’re afraid to.
Stuff is about to change. It’s okay that it’s scary. You’re braver than you can imagine. It’s okay if you need to hide sometimes.
Try not to worry about being afraid. I know it’s hard, and it’s okay when you worry. I promise- a real promise- that even though sometimes it’s hard, things are just going to get better and better for you.
People love you. Not every grownup does, and that’s not your fault. There will be lots of people for you to love who feel good to be around. Hang in there when you know they don’t feel good.
Brush your teeth and floss. I know it’s boring.
When things change, I know it’s scary and it hurts. It’s hard to understand now but hurting is part of growing up. You’ll learn new things, feel new things, and it’s going to be awesome. I promise.
Life is really, really long.
Hang in there, buddy. You’re not alone. It’s gonna be okay.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 1996,
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re braver than you realize. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it now.. it’s more durable and resilient than you think it is.
There are good people waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Brush your teeth and floss. I know it’s a pain in the ass. Don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have sex when you want to. Don’t be ashamed.
Change hurts but you’re on the brink of some real breakthroughs. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Change is growth. Let it hurt. You’re about to level up fast again.
Arizona isn’t so bad. You won’t be there forever and it’s going to teach you a lot. (Spoilers.)
Your thoughts about your career, about your long-term future, are great. Mom and Dad gave you a lot of bad advice, but they gave you some good advice too- and some good examples, along with a lot of bad ones. You’ll learn to sift through them for the diamonds.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2006,
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re braver than you realize. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it now.. it’s more durable and resilient than you think it is.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Brush your teeth and floss. I know it’s a pain in the ass. Keep working out, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of sex. Don’t be ashamed.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. I know you usually don’t have anyone to go places with you, but they’re coming- lots of them, sooner than you’ll realize. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
Try to keep some fear of the drink in you, but don’t be ashamed. When you decide to try mushrooms, I know you’ll be nervous, but don’t try them when you’re drunk at night. Pick a nice day in the morning and listen to upbeat music.
Change hurts but you’re on the brink of some real breakthroughs. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Change is growth. Let it hurt. You’re about to level up fast again.
You’re probably winding down on the blog. Try to keep journaling, try to hold onto those things. You’ll appreciate them as you write them and when you occasionally revisit them later.
Stay strong with work. I know it’s exhausting but the people you love there love you too. You’re doing some great things, and your life isn’t as empty as you tell yourself it is.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2016,
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re braver than you realize. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy again soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it now.. it’s more durable and resilient than you think it is.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Brush your teeth and floss. I know it’s a pain in the ass. Keep working out, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of really good sex. Don’t be ashamed.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. I know you usually don’t have anyone to go places with you, but they’re coming- lots of them, sooner than you’ll realize. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
Try to keep some fear of the drink in you, but don’t be ashamed. You’re about to lose a lot of things you knew weren’t going to last forever, but felt like maybe they would. Try to take the lessons and give yourself grace for hurting. Listen to your pain. Try not to withdraw.
Change hurts but you’re on the brink of some real breakthroughs. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Change is growth. Let it hurt. You’re about to level up fast again.
Stay strong with work. I know it’s exhausting but the people you love there love you too. You’re doing some great things, and your life isn’t as empty as you tell yourself it is. When it’s time to let it go, don’t be ashamed.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2026,
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re braver than you realize. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy again soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it now.. it’s more durable and resilient than you think it is.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Brush your teeth and floss. I know it’s a pain in the ass. Keep working out, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of really good sex. Revel in it, celebrate it.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
Try to keep some fear of the drink in you, but don’t be ashamed. You’re about to lose a lot of things you knew weren’t going to last forever, but felt like maybe they would. Try to take the lessons and give yourself grace for hurting. Listen to your pain. Try not to withdraw.
Change hurts but change is growth. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re still not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2036, (55)
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re brave. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy again soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it now.. it’s more durable and resilient than you think it is.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Brush your teeth and floss. I know it’s a pain in the ass. Keep working out, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of really good sex. Revel in it, celebrate it.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
Maybe you’ve tamed some of the demons and aren’t using substances as much now, but don’t be ashamed if you still depend on them. You’re about to lose a lot of things you knew weren’t going to last forever, but felt like maybe they would. Try to take the lessons and give yourself grace for hurting. Listen to your pain. Try not to withdraw.
Change hurts but change is growth. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re still not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2046, (65)
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re brave. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy again soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it now.. it’s more durable and resilient than you think it is.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Brush your teeth and floss, or soak your dentures, whatevs. I know it’s a pain in the ass. Keep working out, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of really good sex. Revel in it, celebrate it.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
Maybe you’ve tamed some of the demons and aren’t using substances as much now, but don’t be ashamed if you still depend on them. You’re about to lose a lot of things you knew weren’t going to last forever, but felt like maybe they would. Try to take the lessons and give yourself grace for hurting. Listen to your pain. Try not to withdraw.
Change hurts but change is growth. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re still not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2056, (75)
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re brave. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy again soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it and embrace the wisdom you’ve worked hard for.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Soak those dentures and give some amazing gumjobs. Keep moving your body, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of really good sex. Revel in it, celebrate it.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
If you’re still alive, I bet you’ve tamed some more demons and aren’t using substances as much now, but don’t be ashamed if you still depend on them. You’re about to lose a lot of things you knew weren’t going to last forever, but felt like maybe they would. Try to take the lessons and give yourself grace for hurting. Listen to your pain. Try not to withdraw.
Change hurts but change is growth. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re still not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2066, (85)
Everything is about to change. It’s okay to be scared. You’re brave. There’s wisdom already inside of you that’s going to lead you where you need to go, help you find the love and support and lessons and experiences that will keep moving you further into the light.
Try not to panic. Think about braving therapy again soon. Keep trying to learn about your body. Trust it and embrace the wisdom you’ve worked hard for.
There are good people in your life who love you, teach you, and grow with you. There are more waiting to love you, teach you, and grow together. They’re all over the place. Try your best and try your best to really forgive yourself when you feel like you’ve fucked everything up. Try to reach out to lost connections once in a while. Your friendship is not a burden.
Keep loving Star Trek and finding things like it that feel good. It’s going to be a touchstone for you for a long, long time. Maybe forever.
Soak those dentures and give some amazing gumjobs. Keep moving your body, and don’t forget to stretch. And think about your posture. Have a lot of really good sex. Revel in it, celebrate it.
Keep going to the doctor, keep going to the dentist. It’s okay if you need to force yourself, but don’t ignore it. Years pass quickly.
Keep traveling. Keep hosting house parties. Keep making new friends. Think about meditation, even if you need to pace around the house or go on walks and clear your mind.
If you’re still alive, I bet you’ve tamed some more demons and aren’t using substances as much now, but don’t be ashamed if you still depend on them. You’re about to lose a lot of things you knew weren’t going to last forever, but felt like maybe they would. Try to take the lessons and give yourself grace for hurting. Listen to your pain. Try not to withdraw.
Change hurts but change is growth. Trust yourself. Let yourself flip tables, make mistakes. You feel old but you’re still not. Remember Martha. Life is long.
Love you,
Adam 2026
Dear Adam of 2076, (95)
I hope we touched a lot of people, did more good than harm in our time here, and that someone remembers us. (But it’s alright if nobody does.)
Love you,
Adam 2026